LIFE IS TOO SHORT

I was shocked to hear that Eminem's girlfriend in "8 Mile", actress Britney Murphy, died Sunday morning. Although word is that she passed from natural causes, police will continue to investigate. For several days she had been talking prescription meds to fight flu-like symptoms and hours before her death she was vomiting and was very ill until she died of cardiac arrest.
You just never know what life has to offer or when it will be your time to go. Who would have ever guessed that Britney Murphy who was also in "Clueless" and "Don't Tell" would go so soon... at 32??? How is that considered "natural"?
Just confirms that you must not take life for granted. Take advantage and appreciate every moment! "Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth."
— Mark Twain

EVERY CHOICE MATTERS- LIFE CAN CHANGE IN A SPLIT SECOND

26 year old Cincinnati Bengals receiver Chris Henry has died. He was involved in some sort of domestic dispute with his fiance (very recently engaged) Loleini late last night where he fell off the back of a truck. Although he was fighting for his life throughout the night, Chris reportedly died around 6:30am EST this morning. He leaves behind 3 children with his fiance.
I'm at a loss for words... so sad and senseless!
Especially with so much available information on domestic violence, this was preventable.
Are we not paying attention or learning anything from Chris Brown and Rihanna, Tiger Woods and Elin and not to mention all those we know personally that have experience with this issue! Is any dispute worth ones life????
Now Henry's fiance' will most probably face charges... the big question being: was she aware her future husband was in the bed of the truck when she pulled off. Meanwhile, his three kids have lost their father, Loleini has lost her man, and Chris's family has lost a son, brother, cousin and nephew.
Condolences... my prayers are with the family.
RIP Chris Henry.

FROM THE MOUTHS OF BABES....

Okay, I need to do better. Gotta admit, I'm embarrased that half of what that 14 year old was saying about stocks and investing was over my head. Kudos to his Mom! That is one smart lady! Although I'm feeling a bit inadequate, I will admit, especially in todays economic condition, that he only makes sense and he's gotten me inspired to learn.... immediately! If he can do it......

Chris Brown spazzed out on Twitter yesterday concerning low album sales for his new "Graffiti" cd. He said he's tired of major stores blackballing his cd, he's not biting his tongue anymore and the indistry can kiss his a**!

Did he forget that the drama with his ex Rihanna is still fresh in everyones mind? And maybe, just maybe, thats the cause of the slow sales...I mean he did punch an extremely popular and beloved pop star about the head several times and we saw the photos of her batterd face to prove it. It's not easy to erase that vision of Rihannas brusied and bleeding face from our memory.

If he hasn't learned yet, eventually he'll realize that everyone has dues to pay... we reap the benefits or suffer the consequences of our actions. EVERYTHING we do now has an effect on tomorrow, next week, next month, next year and beyond. The honor of our actions or lack there of will determine our detriment or success and quality of life!

IF THE SHOE FITS.....

The ladies of "The View" were talking about the hottest topic in the world, Tiger Woods and giving their views about all the Tiger transgessions and the women he transgressed with. When they talked about the mistress #1, Rachel Uchitel, the VIP club hostess, there was discusssion on how to pronounce her name. Uchitel is pronounced U-ca-tell and co-host Joy Behar said, "you can tell she's a hooker!" LOL ... talk about hilarious! The play on words was classic!

Meanwhile due to all the media backlash etc.... Rachel secured the services of celebrity attorney, get-all your-money Gloria Allred. She's the one that secured the seven figure deal(no less than 1 milli and no more than 3) for Rachel from Tiger for her silence. So anyway Rachel and her lawyer were not at all pleased with the comment and immediately and basically said "take it back or we'll sue!"

To eliminate drama "The View" apologoized. Not that it made a difference in my mind. That's like telling a jury in a court of law... strike that from the record... after the jury's already heard it. Hard to erase it their memory. But anyway..... Rachel might be a nice person. However, the fact that she was knowingly involved with a married man on a continuous basis, puts her actions integrity, morals and values up for public scruitiny. So the ladies of "The View" were simply calling it like they see it. So what they called her hooker... Rachel is a VIP club hostess that slept with a client(s), on more than one occassion and she certainly got kicked down cash for her "services". A hooker gets paid for sexual services. So..... if it quacks like a duck and waddles like a duck..... guess what? It's a duck.

I didn't wanna do it... but I must... I mean the entire world is talking about Tiger Woods and he's given us a lot to talk about. There are now 13 alleged mistresses...five women who have yet to be identified, 8 who have been named, and three of those have made recent headlines with Tiger sexcapade details. They are:

1. Rachel Uchitel

2. Jaimee Grubbs

3. Kalika Moquin

4. Jamie Jungers

5. Cori Rist

6. Mindy Lawton

7. Holly Sampson

8. Joslyn James

Tiger Woods has yet to verbally confirm or identify the alleged mistresses, but a number of text messages, Emails, and even a voicemail have been released as evidence confirming the affairs. So far only one, the 2nd jump off, Jamie Grubbs has apologized to Tiger's wife Elin.

I know people cheat.... men cheat, women cheat and athletes are infamous for "Tiger-like transgressions". Fact is pro-athletes are more privy to groupies and seemingly more-often-than-not take what they're offered. Remember in the famous words of DJ Quick, "first you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the you-know-what...fool don't be no dummny!"

Well, I never considered Tiger Woods the epitome of family values or moral standards... however, I did think he had it together. I thought he was smart... smart enough not to get caught up in some drama like this! Why? Because he has SO MUCH TO LOSE!

In October, he became the first athlete ever to make a billion bucks and he's now considered "the most recognizable person in the world". How did he think he was going to get away with infidelity, lying and cheating? Does he not realize who he is??? And because of his status with the world is watching, didn't he know he was under unprecedented public scrutiny? And if he figured these other women wouldn't tell... why in the world would he trust them??? They had an agenda too... they were looking to get something out of the romp besides the bedroon boom. He should have known that only his wife would keep his private biz - private- because she unlike the other chicks, has his best interest as well has hers and the kids in mind.

I still think Tiger is a great goldfer. Great husband? Not so much. I feel so bad for his wife Elin who has to be unbelievable humiliated. I hope she can maintain her self esteem and respect and she's able to get through the pain. I hope they can work it out and stay together. I know either way she is financially stable but you can't put a price on happiness...... obviously.

As Tiger and Elin look to repair, regroup and hopefully reunite, a quote comes to mind: what lies behind us and before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Never a failure, Always a lesson", thats what Rihanna new tatoo says. A mere few words but a powerful statement. You can't have success without failure. Use your experiences as teachers and learn from all that life has to offer.... the good things and the tough stuff. Whatever doesn't kill you, will make you stronger!

TIME TO MAKE SOME "CHANGES" FOR A BETTER WORLD AND BETTER TOMORROW!

The Vatican and the Pope are showing some "California Love" to Tupac Shakur. His song "Changes" is one of their favorites! Yes, 2Pac's "Changes" shows up on a 12-song MySpace playlist that the Vatican contributed for MySpace's MySpace Music, which launched on Thursday, Dec. 3rd.

The list was compiled by Father Giulio Neroni. "The genres [on the playlist] are very different from each other, but all these artists share the aim to reach the heart of good minded people," The Vatican wrote on its MySpace page.

It's amazing that although "Changes" it was released 2 years after Tupac's death in 1998, the message is still relevant today. Tupac changed the way we think. He was not only a rapper or actor... but an advocate, humanitarian, philanthropist and philosopher.

"This came as such an amazing surprise - it's not something I would have ever thought possible," says the late rapper's mother, Afeni Shakur. "I give thanks every day, knowing Tupac's words and music continue to have such an incredible effect on people worldwide. My son was always striving to reach out to as many people as he could, and he changed the world in doing so."

Tupac may be gone but his message lives on. This makes me reflect on the message that I am sending on a daily basis with the words I speak and by my actions... the way I live. Will I say or do something profound and meaningful enough to leave behind as my legacy? Will the lessons I teach mold minds and provoke positive action? I hope so.... each day I try to remember and embrace what's really important, cut down until I can cut out complaints and conflict and do something productive and positive .... even if its just holding open a door or saying a kind word.

Just think if we all did that, the world would be a better place! Why not start today? It's time for some "Changes"!

I was watching the Vikings games last night already disappointed because it wasn't looking good for a win against the Arizona Cardinals. So to make my daughter and I feel a little better about the eventual loss, I decided to bake some cookies right quick. As I was trying to hurry and take the cookies out of the oven so they wouldn't burn and so I didn't miss any of the game, not thinking, I grabbed the pan without an oven mit and burned the CRAP out of my hand! My daughter and her friends came running to see what happened since I was yelling and cussin bloody murder.
Now about the same time, in the Vikings- Cardinals game, E J Henderson of the Minnesota Vikings was seriously injured in a play. The replay was super hard to watch to say the least.
Here it was I was complaing about my hand due to my careless and thougtless action and this man was in jeopardy of not only losing the game but his career... his livelihood!
Word today is that E J will need surgery and needless to say he's out for the season. I have not heard that his injury is career-ending at this point and I for one am praying that he's makes a full recovery!
This makes me re-evaluate the good, the bad and the ugly. Life does have it's ups and downs and joys and pains with big and little things.... just know the difference and don't sweat the small stuff.

WHATEVER HAPPENS IN THE DARK EVENTUALLY COMES TO LIGHT

OMG!!! I am FLOORED with the latest devlopments on Pleasure P formerlly of the group Pretty Ricky! He's been accused of child molestation!!! The beans were spilled by the daughter of a Florida lawyer that represented him. Laura Goldstein claims to have documented proof that Pleasure P who's gov't name is Marcus Cooper molested not only ONE but SEVERAL kids, while being a member Pretty Ricky. Here's what she revealed:

“My dad was being paid to cover it up but they owe my dad a lot of money and don’t want to pay him. I first overheard my dad say that it was someone famous but I found out who he was talking about. This guy Pleasure P got kicked out of a group bc he was hiding that he was a child molester. His managers or whatever hired my dad to keep it quiet so he could get a record deal. The guy Pleasure P molested a 4 yr old child and was about to molest another one when police came and saved the child. Now, the truth is out they’re threatening my family and telling my dad he’s going to get sued. But they can’t because its a crime.”

Again I say OMG!!!! Usually I'm not so disturbed that I'm speechless.... but this is too much to handle! Even if not every detail is true, the fact that there are so many allegations floating around about Pleasure says to me that there is certainly an issue and some truth to it! I don't want want there to be but where there is smoke- there is FIRE!

All the craziness was going on in 2007 around the time that he left the group Pretty Ricky but now the group has released a statement that strengthens speculation on the child molestation accusations. Check it:

"Unfortunately due to Pleasure P’s lawyer filing an injunction against us from speaking, we are not at liberty to speak about the case. However we will let it be known that we did kick him out of the group, he did not leave on is own free will. We did a deal with Atlantic via Craig Calman that we would let him out of the group if they bought out his contract with us and Blue Star which is the official label of Pretty Ricki. We are not at liberty to discuss why we kicked him out of the group.”

Oh man! This is ridiculous, disgusting, dispicable and WRONG!!! With his image- while he was with Pretty Ricky and since he's been solo, as a sexy bachelor, why in the world would his interest be in children.. babies????? He's worse than R. Kelly!

I'm sick!

CHEATERS NEVER PROSPER

Tiger, Tiger, Tiger.. as in Woods! What in the world are you doing and why? Why would such and intelligent, wordly, successful man sacrifice his comfortable life with his wife for someone that is not even important? How does one sacrifice everything for nothing? I really thought Tiger Woods had his house in order. He seemed like he had it all.... no not his wife and a jump off (another woman)... but the career, the wife, the family the life! When the speculations and allegations first came out about Tigers infidelity, I wanted to believe his denials. But then excerpts from text messages were revealed:
“I will wear you out…when was the last time you got (bleeped)?” said one message. Another from Tiger read, “Send me something very naughty…Go to the bathroom and take (a picture).”
Ewwww... Tiger sexting??? Never looked at him like that. I guess looks can be deceiving. Well, then it was followed by a leaked voice mail to his alleged mistress:
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OMG!!! Hasn't he learned anything from other celebs that get caught playing the infidelity game like late night talk show host David Letterman or athletes like Shaquille O'Neil or even murdered NFL football great Steve McNair???? If you recall he was the victim of a murder-suicide at the hands of his mistress!

Tiger Woods is one of the highest paid athletes in the world so why would he jeopardise not only his marraige and family, but his career, endorsements and public opinion. He's already backed out of one golf tournament. Hard to focus on work with all this unneccessary and what could have been prevented drama.

Just today Tiger released a statement, more like a mini novel, apologizing for cheating, lying and compromising his morals and values:

"I have let my family down and I regret those transgressions with all of my heart," he writes. "I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect."
"I am dealing with my behavior and personal failings behind closed doors with my family," he writes. "Those feelings should be shared by us alone."

Now thats unrealistic... just as the public is interested in every move Tiger makes on the golf course, we are even more consumed with what happens off the course. Honesty is the best policy. Considering he already cheated and lied, there's only one thing left to do.... tell the truth. Remember when David Letterman just went through this same situation and he told the truth off top. And what happened? It blew over super quick!
Seems like no one likes to hear that our role models are doing something morally, legally or socially inappropriate, but although they are super stars, for the most part we accept their shortcomings because they are in fact human. But when our idols continue to try to hide the truth, fake the funk and don't fess up even when they are blatently caught.... then its harder for us to accept and let it go.

Its unfortunate that we don't appreciate what we've got until its gone. Although he's made his situation so much worse creating a media circus with the constant denials, hopefully Tiger and his wife will make it through this.

BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP

How could one be so unhapy with herself, although she's considered close to perfect, that she'd fatally jeopardize her health? 38 year old former Miss Argentina died from complications after undergoing cosmetic surgery on her buttocks. A close friend of the beauty queen and mother of twin girls revealed that the procedure involved injections and the liquid went to her lungs and brain. He added "a woman who had everything lost her life to have a slightly firmer behind."
I just don't get it. I can't imagine going under the knife unless it was to save my life. There are risks in any surgery so to undergo cosmetic surgery basically surgery that isn't medically necessary to me is unnecessary. Remember when Usher's now ex-wife Tameka Foster tried to have a tummy tuck and liposuction two months afer she gave birth to their second son? And do to complications, she almost lost her life? Again all unnecessary... putting your "life" at risk for a flatter tummy or a tighter booty!
What's wrong with being happy with body we have? And if we want to improve our body, why not work a little and go to the gym? Anything worth having is worth working for. We live in a "fast food society where we want what we want quick, fast and in a hurry. And especially if we've got the money or can come up with it, we feel like we can have whatever we want... now. But just like fast food... just because we can afford whatever it is we're seeking at the time and get it quickly, doesn't mean that it's the best thing for us.
The death of the former Argentian beauty queen should be a wake up call. Her children are girls. Especially young ladies need reinforcement that beauty is skin deep.
Is beauty worth ones life? Can money buy happiness? If it could she would still be alive. RIP.